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Went To METROLINA Antique Show ~

My youngest son and I, went to the big antique show at Metrolina in Charlotte, NC this past weekend. I was hoping to show lots of pictures of antiques, but the show ended up being about 1/10th of what it used to be like( or less), so I only have a few pictures of our day. He was in charge of taking most pictures, and forgot most of the time. But when he remembered, I'll show you our day.

Here is the opening sign where we paid to get it. I think it was 5.00  dollars for me, he was free as he was under 12 years old ( yeah!).

It was sweltering , and I mean sweltering outside. We got there late, around 11 AM, and it was already 94 degrees and 80 % humidity.

First exciting thing we saw was this snazzy 1950-60's red automobile. I grabbed the camera and took his picture by it.

I asked how much this 1960's light pink radio was, and they told me 45.00, which was too much for me for resale. Passed.

Then we walked around some more in the blazing sun and heat, and did not see much. Vendors were hot, shoppers were hot, a miserable day once it got to be around noon.

Lots of containers with costume jewelry to rifle through, but not me, I was looking for vintage or antique paintings or some other antique or vintage decorative objects.

Blue mason jars, old soda bottles lined up neatly. Hardly anything outside( they also sell inside buildings), of any higher quality antiques this time. Bummer.

I was wearing my handy small backpack, but forgot my water bottle. Everyone needs to remember their water bottles, their cash, check book, credit cards, driver's license , measuring tape, notepad, and a pen. I also have brought a small magnifying glass, but forgot it that day.

 

As you can see, my photographer liked being photographed by ' cool' things. Knight in shining armor was $225.00. Pass. I kept the boy in blue though.

Old vintage 1930-40's garden chairs. I think the rust was free with the chair's price.

More great vintage metal lawn/garden chairs and glider. He has some hot wheels cars in that bag by the way.

 

They do have some outside covered booths, and I did see a few neat things, but not anything spectacular. We were both getting very hot, and a bit testy, both of us.

Almost bought this mod pair of plastic and vinyl chairs, but they were very small, only a small adult or pre-teen could sit comfortably in them. So I passed.

I did get this nice antique, early 1900's, pyrography or Flemish art wood piece, for only 5.00, good deal! This was a old hobbyist piece were people would buy the wood, and a design would be marked into it, and they would burn the design in with a special tool, and make themselves decorative objects. Back in the very early 1900's.

Fairly soon, I felt like I was going to pass out from the heat, and so we went into one of the buildings and bought some cold water and looked around. People can bring their pets here,and this woman brought her dog in a stroller.

Spoiled rotten cute.

Here was a picture of a dealer's three spoiled pampered pooches.

Some oriental objects for sale.

Some vintage mink wraps for sale, I think she said they were about 20.00-25.00 each. If people just bought vintage furs, they wouldn't have to kill any animals now for their furs.

I was going over to see my French art dealer friend Daniel, and I found him chatting with another French dealer, and I walked up and told them to keep talking , so I could hear a man talk in French around me. Everytime I do that, they stop talking, darn.

He has some wonderful art and pottery. His site is http://www.trocadero.com/simhond/. But he also sets up at Metrolina every month in Charlotte in the big first building when you walk in. Tell him I sent you if you go.

I really liked this painting he has, a late 1800's oil on academy board in a European frame of a Renaissance saint or Mary Magdalene.

I bought here and she is for sale here.

 

 

Beautiful old vintage floral of gladiolas he had for sale, but too much for me for resale. I have bought many paintings from Daniel over the years, and many I wish I had bought.

My photographer took a goodbye shot of me and Daniel & his wonderful French accent, and then we continued our shopping.

Bought these original Italian Florentine wood frames...

Bought this vintage Impressionist pink roses floral in a big original frame that day...

Vintage European seascape...and a few more items. Not a awesome Metrolina trip, I believe their November Extravaganza show will be the next one I come to.

So we both pile into the car, turn up the air-conditioning on high, turn Adele 21 up on high, and head back home. On the way back , my son loves to see the big Charlotte Knights baseball team's water tower in the sky from the highway...

Enjoy your days and nights, all my items can be found here.

Take good care everyone,

Gina



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Very SIMPLE Daily Ways to Help with Intense Grief

Edisto Beach, SC 2012

I have considered writing this for many months( about 9 months) now, but have felt very unqualified to do so. Unqualified as I feel I did not ' get through' grief very well. But , I thought that this could possibly help someone who has experienced a tragedy , a death of a loved one. This is a small guide, suggestion list, of what may help you or a friend who is struggling with deep, intense grief. I am not talking about losing a job, marriage, pet or friendship kind of grief. I am going to be talking about the most painful grief I have personally experienced, the loss of a child. I had lost my grandparents, who I adored, my mother at 65 suddenly and also tragically, many pets that I also loved dearly...but nothing, absolutely nothing came close to the pain of losing my youngest daughter, Sarah, at age 21 in July of 2010.

Sarah to the right here.

We found out our daughter had been killed in a car accident, one early evening in July 2010. We were out of town , at Edisto beach( the picture above top is me there), our favorite family vacation spot. I will not go in to the specifics of the phone call, the drive home or the ensuing funeral home visits and cemetery appointments. All of this ' business of death', between calls and visits from the coroner, the funeral home, and the cemetery, well-wishing friends, completely drained what bit of sanity and physical and mental energy I had. I did write some blog entries after the first week, I think it helped some.

But with a sudden death, or even a imminent death from an illness, our bodies go in to grief-mode, and do not function very well. I could not talk, think, read, or communicate very well for the first 6 months or so. I fell physically apart, from head to toe, lots of expensive medical tests, stressful appointments, and not much sympathy from many in my family for the first year especially. Because everyone reacts to grief differently. I fell apart physically, emotionally, and spiritually. My husband handled everything much better, and within a few months he was handling his life pretty well, grieving inside still, but not in as bad a shape physically and emotionally as I was.

I think partially it was how close I was with Sarah, I had daily contact with her...my husband did not. So I believe that whoever is closest to the person who died( closest in daily or weekly contact), that person will suffer outwardly through physical ailments, depression, etc. more than others.  Also if you are simultaneously going through atdifficult time, depression, divorce, menopause, cancer,illness, job worries, etc. then your time will be doubly hard. I did not garner lots of sympathy from my family( though my sister and my dad were both concerned about my well-being), I do believe I was annoying and aggravating to many. I had to learn how to make it through a day with my broken heart and physical symptoms of grief I was experiencing, MYSELF. I felt God was not there, common even with religious followers, but I also knew He was, so a sort of conflicted religious state.

Regardless, I felt alone with the horrible pain and confusion, and I had to learn to treat myself gently, and take baby steps to be able to function in my family and in the world. You also need to be very , very gentle with yourself if you are going through a similar situation, male or female, tough or not, BE GENTLE and KIND with yourself. Do not attempt to jump back into your old life  as soon as you can.

Your old life is now gone, and you are left with stepping into a new one, without your loved one.

At the bottom of this list, I will tell you why you have to do this, why you need to do this. But first some advice, as I have walked in your shoes, and I do know your pain.

And hopefully, some of these basic , easy tips can help you too.

Basic Tips to Help w/ Grief

1. Make a list, every morning or evening, with only 3-5 ' things to do' to get you focused . To keep you living. No more than 3-5 items, like Make coffee, do 2 loads of laundry, go to post office, make bed, rake leaves, water flowers, vacuum house, etc. Cross off each item once you accomplish it. I did this for months, and it helped me very much. Remember only SIMPLE tasks for the first few( 3-4) months.

2. Drink lots of extra water, 6-8 glasses a day, a banana or apple every day, and make sure you eat even a small meal with more vegetables and fruits than you normally eat. Going through grief depletes our physical bodies terribly. Cut way back on excess sugar, caffeine, alcohol as they drain vitamins and nutrients from your body, and the stress is already depleting your physical reserves.

3. Go buy a good multi-vitamin, put it in your kitchen so you can see it everyday, and take it. I also bought some adrenal support  and stress support capsules from my local health food store.

4. Walk daily, even if it is for 2 blocks, better is 30 mins., to help your body and mind relieve the pent-up stress inside. Get outside, in the sun, in your yard or a quiet park. Diffused sunshine made me physically feel better . 20 mins. or more a day. Do not sit inside all day and not go outdoors, your body needs fresh air and sunshine. Make yourself go sit on your back porch steps or chairs and look at your trees, feel the warmth of the sun, feel the breeze, listen to the birds.

Breathe fresh air.

5. Tend your garden or yard, simple tasks though, not complicated gardening right now. Just go out and water, watering helped me relax. Raking, or pulling a few weeds is also good. Don't work like a fiend for 3-4 hours in your yard though, just 30 mins. to an hour  for awhile. Plant a small garden or flower pot in memory of your loved one. I have a small garden I named Sarah's garden in front of my larger one.

Above is part of Sarah's garden. I put in things she would have liked.

6. There is much in grief books about going out to social events still, malls, parties, celebrations, etc. I think the best idea is go only if you want to. You can go for 30 mins. or an hour, and then excuse yourself and get back home or somewhere else. It is too exhausting to go to a wedding or birthday where people are happy and festive for 3-4 hours and your heart is crushed inside. Do not go because you think you HAVE to go. People will forgive and understand if you decline invitations. Then possibly in 4-6 months, go to a few celebrations. I went to only a few events for the first year. I could not go to a funeral for almost 2 years, so do not feel bad if you are unable to go to important events.

Go when you are calmer inside, and the pain is not so intense.

7. Be very careful with what you watch on Television or at the the movies for awhile ( for me forever). Many shows have accidents, heart attacks, murders, ghosts and more mayhem that hits too close to home if you have experienced a recent death in your life . Even many commercials have disturbing content for someone who is grieving. Monitor what goes in your eyes , stick with light comedies, or home improvement shows, or any shows that do not deal with death, such as Law & Order, Forensic Files, and similar shows. Guard your eyes.

Antique hunting in a local antique mall

8. Recall and find that ' thing-passion-hobby' in life that helps and distracts you and takes your mind off your pain. With some people that may be reading, drawing, gardening, sewing, woodworking, etc. Mine is antique hunting for my site that I sell on. It was(is) an escape and keeps my mind occupied for short periods of time off my pain. Gardening is another, but in the Deep South of the United States, it is brutal sub-tropical gardening , with high humidity and heat. And I was having many physical ailments cropping up, so I was not able to garden as much as I had. I have heard many experts tell someone who is grieving to go  volunteer somewhere, to help someone else. I only did a few volunteer activities, I really was not up to being out in groups for quite some time. I think if you want to volunteer, then do something for only a few hours at the most, and then work up to longer times when you feel able. If you do not want to volunteer, then look around and help someone you run across or live with in small or big ways.

Son at Edisto beach, SC

9. If you do not have a pet , I would suggest getting one as they really do help keep you company, love you, are affectionate and are there for you when you come home. Yes they are work, and are expensive, but they truly help with your pain.

Miss Maxine

10. To help with your faith issues, one simple thing I did, and have continued doing, is finding one -just 1- Scripture/Bible verse and writing it  down, saying it to myself daily. Mostly on my morning walks. I say this if I feel it or don't feel it, if I believe it or don't for that day.
"This is the day the Lord has made, I will be glad and rejoice in it."Psalm 118:24
Recall a favorite Bible verse, look up ones on faith, hope, death and then write it on a piece of paper and memorize it. Put it on your fridge, in your car, by your computer.

 That leads me to the why you need to do these or other actions , and there are three important reasons. One is your family and friends still need you. Your attitude, your happiness AFFECTS their lives. My extreme unhappiness and grief was not helpful to anyone in my family for long periods of time. My grief was changing their lives, for the worse. My remaining children still needed a mother to celebrate life with. I know that my daughter's death, should not make my other children's lives not all that they should be. I had to learn to smile again, even laughing hurt my face as it had been many months that I had not truly laughed or smiled.

 No. two is YOU. You and I are important in this world, if you do not have children or a family, you still have people you encounter everyday, and your attitude, demeanor, your words AFFECT their lives. You can make someone have a better day or a worse day. I have done both, and am working at trying to make someone have a better day.

Just a smile, just a hi how are you, just a wave... but doing these are hard to do  when you are grieving( they were for me), but ever so slowly make yourself enter back into the world.

And number three,God still needs you.

 I do not know how or why, but He has important tasks He still needs only you to do.

Your loved one who is now gone was a very important person to God, and so are you...please do not forget that fact.

Oh, and one last thing, make plans, make  a day trip to a nearby town, a overnight stay, a mini-vacation plan or plans. You have to have something to look forward to, it can help with your pain and distract you back into living again. 

I hope this helps someone, I wish I could hug you , I do care about your pain.

Bless you,

Gina



31 Years Today~

Newlyweds 1981

Older( much) Newlyweds Charleston 2012

 Ups and downs, the good and the bad, life day by day...year by year...and decade after decade, together. Why and how this man puts up with me I'll never know, must be love ( he tells me).

Have some entries in mind to write if I can get to them, enjoy so many of your blogs,

take good care everyone!

Gina



A Sweet Folk ART Jewelry Box I Found:

Here is a sweet vintage/antique handmade folk art jewelry box I found to sell, made with charm and love, please read my listing I added below:
 

Here is a very charming , vintage, circa 1920-40's, hand-made and hand-carved and painted wood jewelry box. It has red flowers/poinsettias ? On the top, inlaid wood pieces and ' cut-designed' wood . On the sides are carved roses and foliage, and chiseled or ' cut-designs' in the surround( around the flowers). It measures 3 1/2 ins. tall, 5 ins. in depth and 10 ins. long approx.

The inside has more ' cut-designed' chiseled accents and carved hearts. The mirror looks to be an old pocket mirror he glued in here, and has one lone bakelite/or green wood holder to anchor it. The top does not fit on perfect, sort of does not close totally flush. I believe the hinges , especially the one to the left needs some work.

It doesn't close correctly here. The side has separated here some too. But it is strong and sturdy. The hearts here are wonderful.

He even made these corner stops/pads in the shape of hearts, though they have lost most of their shape through the decades.

It is chiseled out and signed Made by F.D.M. inside.

He carved all the flowers , and put some inlaid wood accents on the corners, and chiseled the hearts and mirror holder out of a single piece of wood I believe.

I am thinking since he has poinsettia leaves and Flowers on top, that this was a Christmas gift to his wife or girlfriend , and then roses all all other 4 sides.

The back hinge that does not sit correctly. Hopefully someone can fix this, or leave as is, or even take off the hinges and just lift the top on and off.

I can just imagine this woodworker, carving this out, many days, weeks of hard work, intently showing his love for a woman through his hands.

So basically this man gave this woman his heart in a box. Very, very romantic.

I would place this in the 1920-40's time frame. It may be older than that. Any questions, feel free to email me,

Sincere thanks,

Gina

AntiqueARTGarden

A Stolen Kiss

Now gentle sleep hath clos'd up those eyes
Which waking kept my boldest thoughts in awe,
And free access unto that sweet lip lies,
From whence I long the rosy breath to draw;
Methinks no wrong it were if I should steal
From those two melting rubies one poor kiss;
None sees the theft that would the thief reveal,
Nor rob I her of aught which she can miss;
Nay, should I twenty kisses take away,
There would be little sign I had done so;
Why then should I this robbery delay?
Oh! she may wake and therewith angry grow.
Well, if she do, I'll back restore that one,
And twenty hundred thousand more for loan.

by George Wither( 1588-1667)